Week 14- Rise Above It! (You can do it!!)

Hands up if you’ve fallen off the wagon a bit? I know I have. But it’s made me all the more determined to start by kicking 2016s ass! 

First, I love Cool Runnings so being told to watch that is always good with me! The persistence they all show is just amazing! A top quote for me is: 

‘Do the words give up mean anything to you?’

‘Not a thing!’ 

I think we should all learn something from this. If we show up with the commitment each day of doing our best we will get there. We will all have times that we fall off the wagon. The question is; 
Are you going to get back on it?
Because at some points you do fall off. But it’s up to you if you stay fallen off. If you have the guts to keep getting up anytime you do fall off then you’re sure as hell closer to achieving than those who stay down. 

So if this is you, come on, get back up, you know you want to…;)
Finally I will leave you with this: 

Till next time in 2016! 

Steph x


Week 13 Masterkey Experience- Dream a little bigger Darling

 Edit  How often are well held back by our inner guard when we dare to dream? Our minds start to travel down a wild and wonderful path of new ideas and adventures and you come up with an idea that makes you SO EXCITED and you desperately want to do something about it. Then WHAM! The blocks start appearing.

‘It’s a nice idea but you can’t do this because you don’t have the money’.

‘You could do it but everyone will laugh at you’.

‘You don’t have the time!’.

‘Really? You think YOU could do that?!’. 

Before you know it, you have mentally packed up your dreams and hidden them away in the deep realms of fantasy land. The dream suddenly becomes a prisoner, only allowed out a few times a day for play when and where the guard deems it safe, then rushed back inside at the first sign of risk.

Now, you can’t blame the guard. It has been programmed to keep us safe through generations of our forefathers tendency to go wandering off and accidentally stumble into the jaws of a T-Rex. You only have to look at the Darwin awards to see just how unaware of mortality some humans can be. 

After several centuries of this, the guard decided that the mind could not be trusted to make decisions so barged in and took up permanent residency at the door of dreams. Nothing gets in or out without the guards say so.

The mind, being open to new ideas and pleased to have someone minimalise the T-Rex issue, happily let the guard in with no second thought.

As with many protective forces, the guard was very opinionated. The more the mind listened to the guard without questioning, the louder and more dominant the guard became. The mind’s river of ideas and dreams started to become more of a stream, and obediently stayed behind the door of dreams.  

Now, forgive the storytelling element but I’m sure you can see what I mean here. Some people do not have a problem with their inner guards and still manage to do but what they choose regardless of what the guard mutters. However if you’re like me, you have had experience of your inner guard stopping you from pursuing your dreams and ideas. There is a way around this.

Examine your inner guard. Find out where it came from. It could be anything from bullying, fear of inadequacy or an off hand comment someone made once that stayed with you. As you will come to see, the guard is your own form of fear. Whatever it’s root you must remember that it came from something or someone who is not experiencing your life first hand. 

The only person who has that privilege of your life first hand is you. 

When the mind starts to question and examine the guard with curiosity and love the guard starts to soften and loose its power over us. Don’t get me wrong, it is unlikely that the guard will ever be completely silent, but it is then that the guard can actually become a useful tool to the mind. 

By having the courage to stand up and say ‘yes I can do it’ when your guard questions you, you empower yourself.

You realise that those blocks weren’t blocks at all but stepping stones. Stepping stones to confidence and faith in yourself. 
And as you move from each stepping stone to the next you realise that these helped you become your greater self and give you the tools you need to indeed dream a little bigger, Darling 😉 

Happy Christmas! Till next time…


week 12- holidays are coming!!

I have a confession to make. 
I have OCD. 
Obsessive Christmas Disorder. 
I absolutely love Christmas! It is by far my favourite time of year! I think it stems from my years in retail when Christmas starts approximately mid October and we started getting the Christmas stock in and playing Christmas songs on repeat so much that you dream of them. 
I’m lucky enough to work in a pretty nice school, but that doesn’t mean to say that all my kids have the nicest time of things in their home lives. In fact I know some of them won’t be having a particularly nice time over the break. Sadly I cannot do much to change their situation, but I can do little things to make them smile.  Or in my case this:

And this:

Really looking forward to the break from work (which started an hour ago, yay!) so I can get refocused on MKMMA, I’ve been really struggling lately so the break will do me good!
Till next time….
Steph 🙂 

Week 11 Masterkey experience- Just keep chipping, just keep chipping! 

I have spent the last few days chipping away.
Not figuratively.
But quite literally chipping away!
My brother has just bought a new house that needs renovating and my job has been to de wallpaper the upper floor. I have been scrapping away paper and chipping at all plasterboard like there is no tomorrow. My journey has been a mixture of the following:
‘I LOVE this’
‘Thank God for steamers!!’
‘Oh my god, this is too hard, I want to stop now!!’
‘Wow that bit came off easily’
‘I’ve been scratching at this for ages and it won’t budge!’
But eventually I got through it and these big bare walls ready for new life were staring back at me.

It perfectly sums up how I’ve been going with this experience. Sometimes big bits of the cement Buddha fall off, sometimes it’s little ones, but as long as you don’t give up there is progress and I got my goal completed. With a nice thumb blister as well as a medal of honour!
I watched an INCREDIBLE video a few days ago by Ray Bradbury which must have been made about 10 years before he died. It’s long but if you’re into writing I recommend it.

It just struck a cord with me. I felt so excited I could cry, I felt like I found a kindred spirit. In the video Ray says that when you start writing you must start small, aim for one short story a week. That way you learn your style and don’t over invest too quickly when you’re not ready. It makes sense really. We don’t teach the kids at school to pass their A level when they’re 12, so why push for a novel for my first writing?!
So, I’m committing to writing one short story a week. I’m excited to get going and find my style!
Till next time…


Week 10 masterkey experience- seeing small changes!

It’s been a steady week and I’m really starting to notice the little changes! So many people ask me about my compass and it acts as a great reminder! 

I’ve really noticed being able to get a handle on my patience which is lovely! I’m not getting as stressed out and when I feel like I am I concentrate on just taking a quiet moment to say ‘I love you’ and it really helps. Also I’m really trying on the opinions and getting there! I’m starting to bite my tongue more and more. 

I’m also finding that by doing this I’m able to put myself in other people’s shoes and again this allows me to control myself more. The steps are small but they are coming! Such a lovely reward!