Edit How often are well held back by our inner guard when we dare to dream? Our minds start to travel down a wild and wonderful path of new ideas and adventures and you come up with an idea that makes you SO EXCITED and you desperately want to do something about it. Then WHAM! The blocks start appearing.
‘It’s a nice idea but you can’t do this because you don’t have the money’.
‘You could do it but everyone will laugh at you’.
‘You don’t have the time!’.
‘Really? You think YOU could do that?!’.
Before you know it, you have mentally packed up your dreams and hidden them away in the deep realms of fantasy land. The dream suddenly becomes a prisoner, only allowed out a few times a day for play when and where the guard deems it safe, then rushed back inside at the first sign of risk.
Now, you can’t blame the guard. It has been programmed to keep us safe through generations of our forefathers tendency to go wandering off and accidentally stumble into the jaws of a T-Rex. You only have to look at the Darwin awards to see just how unaware of mortality some humans can be.
After several centuries of this, the guard decided that the mind could not be trusted to make decisions so barged in and took up permanent residency at the door of dreams. Nothing gets in or out without the guards say so.
The mind, being open to new ideas and pleased to have someone minimalise the T-Rex issue, happily let the guard in with no second thought.
As with many protective forces, the guard was very opinionated. The more the mind listened to the guard without questioning, the louder and more dominant the guard became. The mind’s river of ideas and dreams started to become more of a stream, and obediently stayed behind the door of dreams.
Now, forgive the storytelling element but I’m sure you can see what I mean here. Some people do not have a problem with their inner guards and still manage to do but what they choose regardless of what the guard mutters. However if you’re like me, you have had experience of your inner guard stopping you from pursuing your dreams and ideas. There is a way around this.
Examine your inner guard. Find out where it came from. It could be anything from bullying, fear of inadequacy or an off hand comment someone made once that stayed with you. As you will come to see, the guard is your own form of fear. Whatever it’s root you must remember that it came from something or someone who is not experiencing your life first hand.
The only person who has that privilege of your life first hand is you.
When the mind starts to question and examine the guard with curiosity and love the guard starts to soften and loose its power over us. Don’t get me wrong, it is unlikely that the guard will ever be completely silent, but it is then that the guard can actually become a useful tool to the mind.
By having the courage to stand up and say ‘yes I can do it’ when your guard questions you, you empower yourself.
You realise that those blocks weren’t blocks at all but stepping stones. Stepping stones to confidence and faith in yourself.
And as you move from each stepping stone to the next you realise that these helped you become your greater self and give you the tools you need to indeed dream a little bigger, Darling 😉
Happy Christmas! Till next time…